A Luxury We Can't Afford
Keeping our heads and hearts in the right place.
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“Don’t you ever have a bad day?”
Because I’m typically positive and project positive energy into my writing and work, people will ask me if I ever have a bad day.
They wouldn’t ask if they were spending the morning with me.
Several pending issues of varying degrees of frustration were going to get resolved.
Not only did none of them get resolved I’m going to have to find new ways to solve all of them.
I’m not positive at the moment. I am frustrated at all of the disappointments this morning.
One instance is particularly frustrating because someone isn’t following through on their commitment and is instead putting it back on me.
Even my typical running release is on hold because the weather forecast changes every ten minutes.
I have no idea when I might be able to head out without getting caught in some nasty weather.
I’ve tried all the ‘for me’ rather than ‘to me’ self-talk I can muster to no avail.
I’m bummed. Actually, more than that, though, I’m trying to watch the language.
Here’s the thing. I can’t stay like this.
Bad self-talk and embracing a negative attitude are a luxury I can’t afford.
Ikigai is about experiencing your essence and purpose in harmony with whatever you do.
There is nothing harmonious in the way I’m feeling right now. Every bad tape from my past is cued up, ready to play the negative self-talk to reinforce the unfairness and failure that this morning represents.
It happens.
There will be days like this, even for those of us who aspire to peace and positivity in our life.
I am setting the intention in my heart that my attitude won’t be this negative tomorrow.
🌀So yes, I do have bad days, as we all do. Life isn’t perfect, and it is okay to say so. We can’t stay there. Staying in a bad place is a luxury I (we) cannot afford.
David as we grow in wisdom we better see that having bad days is what allows us to be more human, as someone we know said, to err is human ;) well when we do become human we are better able to relate to others on that level. Let me ask you this...if I was an addict and I wanted to help other addicts would I have credibility more or less than some others that did not? There was a great movie Fr. Stu that had Mark Wahlberg portraying Fr. Stu as it is a true story. Before Fr. Stu was a father let's say he had a less than admirable life perhaps like Mark Wahlberg. Why may you think the Director with others had chosen Mark? Relatable and authentic...back to your topic. Do not try to make mistakes in life but head towards excellence, yet take those learning moments and build on them to your better self not wallow in pity with no lessons learned and be relatable and human! Pax, Lux et Amor! Veritas IHS
On days like that, we need to give ourselves grace, accept that life is imperfect and complicated, and it will affect us and throw us off balance.
The trick, as you said, is to let it do its thing but not allow it to linger.
Tomorrow is another day!