Controlling the Good while invalidating the Bad seems to be the pattern most follow. May we look for ways to change that dynamic as early in the lives of others as possible.
It's all part of the "equation". We travel on that perfectly curvy path. It just depends on which side we lean to look over into at certain points along our way.
Allison Whitmore put It best in a DBT podcast:
"Acceptance is acknowledging the 'why' even if we don't agree with the 'what' ".
Thanks for sharing David and see from tidbits in this story perhaps the search for your ikigai was so important and seemingly trying to maintain that balance each day. All I will say is once a person does become in balance (reaches the point of let's say a K2) then what. This answer other than be in oneness with oneself is simply not enough for many. We strive for more that God has given us in our core (soul)....we strive for unity with the One Triune God and as Thomas Aquinas found out as many that this can not be achieved by ourselves but only with God's help! Peace be with you!
Absolutely....this fact has to also be recognized and mentioned as the ultimate destination. Striving towards greatest is key yet even with harmony, passion and essence achieved it is only a small part truly achieved. Like setting out to climb K2 or Everest or really any mountain one sees as the goal....then reaching the 1/2 way point is not achieved only started towards the goal. Even reaching the top is not done....the climber has completed the goal when back down the bottom and living fully ones life to continue to climb always with God as a climbing partner! The Triune God is the ultimate Creator!
Appreciate this perspective very much, David. We can achieve better balance between wanting to fix everything wrong in the world, or our part of it, and also seeing everything - and especially everyONE - who is good, or who has good in them (almost everyone). Not to bounce back and forth between extremes but learn to live in the middle, both appreciating and fixing. Thanks.
My neurodivergent creativity. I always think outside the box. That can be a blessing, but that also annoys a lot of people. I am always struggling to open my mouth. But sometimes, I just can't help it!
Thanks for this, David. This resonates with the IFS "parts" perspective on personality. Parts of us that we "Exile" when we run into situations where we experience shame or other negative reactions to our behaviors are often hiding in the shadows and needing the love/attention of Self. Glad to hear that you found a balance point, and appreciate the call to action to embrace the shadow as a pathway to integration and wholeness.
I relate to the challenge of having a gift not everyone is happy about. When I sit with people, I can know their emotional state at a level they might not even be aware of yet. It was challenging as a child, so I kept my mouth shut. And even now as an adult, I only discuss it with people who ask.
I can relate. Not to the specific gift but to being silenced as a child. It has only been in recent years I felt 'okay' in sharing mine fully. I hope you will come to that place as well. The world needs your voice.
I’ve been able to use it while counseling my clients for 31+ years. And I am grateful to find a way to be of help. Thank you for the kind words about the world needing my voice. Every day I am aware that I am just one person, but if I can help one person this day, then things have come into balance.
I love how this piece invites embracing the feeling of discomfort our differences can create...as a shared part of the human experience and the opportunity to let our purpose unfold with kindness & compassion through such experiences 🙏 What would a culture that led from the place of embracing our differences as a shared experience be capable of creating?
I think Buckminster Fuller called out what would be possible, "It is now highly feasible to take care of everybody on Earth at a 'higher standard of living than any have ever known.' It no longer has to be you or me. Selfishness is unnecessary and henceforth unrationalizable as mandated by survival." If we worked together.
You had me at Fibonacci, David.
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Controlling the Good while invalidating the Bad seems to be the pattern most follow. May we look for ways to change that dynamic as early in the lives of others as possible.
It's all part of the "equation". We travel on that perfectly curvy path. It just depends on which side we lean to look over into at certain points along our way.
Allison Whitmore put It best in a DBT podcast:
"Acceptance is acknowledging the 'why' even if we don't agree with the 'what' ".
"Acceptance is acknowledging the 'why' even if we don't agree with the 'what'." That's something worth pondering.
Thank you Scott for trying this to podcasts you enjoy! I'm currently on a similar adventure myself as I explore the posdcasting realm 🙏
Thanks for sharing David and see from tidbits in this story perhaps the search for your ikigai was so important and seemingly trying to maintain that balance each day. All I will say is once a person does become in balance (reaches the point of let's say a K2) then what. This answer other than be in oneness with oneself is simply not enough for many. We strive for more that God has given us in our core (soul)....we strive for unity with the One Triune God and as Thomas Aquinas found out as many that this can not be achieved by ourselves but only with God's help! Peace be with you!
Aquinas was on to something. We cannot truly experience the creation without connecting to the creator.
Absolutely....this fact has to also be recognized and mentioned as the ultimate destination. Striving towards greatest is key yet even with harmony, passion and essence achieved it is only a small part truly achieved. Like setting out to climb K2 or Everest or really any mountain one sees as the goal....then reaching the 1/2 way point is not achieved only started towards the goal. Even reaching the top is not done....the climber has completed the goal when back down the bottom and living fully ones life to continue to climb always with God as a climbing partner! The Triune God is the ultimate Creator!
Appreciate this perspective very much, David. We can achieve better balance between wanting to fix everything wrong in the world, or our part of it, and also seeing everything - and especially everyONE - who is good, or who has good in them (almost everyone). Not to bounce back and forth between extremes but learn to live in the middle, both appreciating and fixing. Thanks.
Learning to live in that harmonious middle...I like that Malka.
So funny, I didn't even use the word harmonious, but harmony is definitely an important theme in my life
I read between the lines. 😉🙏🏻
My neurodivergent creativity. I always think outside the box. That can be a blessing, but that also annoys a lot of people. I am always struggling to open my mouth. But sometimes, I just can't help it!
I'm reminded of the Cat Stevens song, Father and Son...
How can I try to explain?
When I do, he turns away again
It's always been the same
Same old story
From the moment I could talk
I was ordered to listen
I feel like the world is always trying to silence those unique voices inside us. It is our job to uncover them and let them be a gift to the world.
Thank you for this! 😊
Thanks for this, David. This resonates with the IFS "parts" perspective on personality. Parts of us that we "Exile" when we run into situations where we experience shame or other negative reactions to our behaviors are often hiding in the shadows and needing the love/attention of Self. Glad to hear that you found a balance point, and appreciate the call to action to embrace the shadow as a pathway to integration and wholeness.
Exile is an apt word for this JJ. I'm going to sit with that for a while.
I relate to the challenge of having a gift not everyone is happy about. When I sit with people, I can know their emotional state at a level they might not even be aware of yet. It was challenging as a child, so I kept my mouth shut. And even now as an adult, I only discuss it with people who ask.
I can relate. Not to the specific gift but to being silenced as a child. It has only been in recent years I felt 'okay' in sharing mine fully. I hope you will come to that place as well. The world needs your voice.
I’ve been able to use it while counseling my clients for 31+ years. And I am grateful to find a way to be of help. Thank you for the kind words about the world needing my voice. Every day I am aware that I am just one person, but if I can help one person this day, then things have come into balance.
I love how this piece invites embracing the feeling of discomfort our differences can create...as a shared part of the human experience and the opportunity to let our purpose unfold with kindness & compassion through such experiences 🙏 What would a culture that led from the place of embracing our differences as a shared experience be capable of creating?
I think Buckminster Fuller called out what would be possible, "It is now highly feasible to take care of everybody on Earth at a 'higher standard of living than any have ever known.' It no longer has to be you or me. Selfishness is unnecessary and henceforth unrationalizable as mandated by survival." If we worked together.
Love this 🥰🥰🥰
I'm so glad!