Thank you David. My father passed away suddenly, but not expectedly and as you say he was always there until he wasn't. He was my business mentor and my "life philospohy coach" and I am still so grateful for the copious time we had together. I take your prayer to heart as I am now the old man to my children.
I cried when I got the news about Bob. As a west coast Canadian you wouldn't think that would be the case but I grew up watching him on the Tonight Show. He was one the greatest deadpan comedians of all time and I adored him. His famous line from the movie "juuuust a liiittle outside" will make me laugh for the rest of my days.
During the baseball strike, he was asked what he thought Philidelphia Phillies fans would do without someone to boo. Without missing a beat he answered, "They'll probably go to the airport and boo take-offs and landings." As you say, he was the king of deadpan and impromptu humor.
One reason I think we hang around beyond our 'reproductive' years is to fill that role of mentor and loving parent/grandparent. Glad your dad was there for you in this way and you for your kids.
We all are here until we aren't. Then we're still where we are. Everywhere. In all those hearts, minds, souls, and corners where we show up because our presence was there all along. Life is a story and it persists as long as it's our truth and our fancy.
My dad started dying slowly from dementia, and it took many years. I don't know what is harder to see, your loved ones go through such a cruel process or lose them quickly. One thing is for sure: death is painful for us, not them, and the legacy they leave is what keeps them alive.
You take good care of yourself. For sure, you're not ready to go yet.
I'm sorry Arnaly. That had to be hard. My wife and I were lucky as both our fathers were in good mental health right up to their last day.
I'm not planning on going anywhere any time soon. It does refine and refocus my thoughts about what i want to do while I'm here for those who will miss me when I'm gone.
It’s a good idea to see yourself “on the other side.” The perspective changes radically. It helps to analyze what we’re doing and how we should change it or not.
Amen to that, Reebecca. The days we are experiencing now are the good ol days we will miss in the future. We do need a way to remind ourselves to expeirnce them now.
There are moments when it's almost impossible to believe that someone has gone, left this earth. I think our brains sometimes just go into shutdown and won't let us take that information in. Today, on my playlist, New York state of mind by Billy Joel. I can remember playing it over and over when my first marriage broke up in 1982. When that happened, both my parents were still alive but my daughter was not yet born. When I heard that song today, there was a strong sense of disconnect. It felt to me, in those few moments, that it could not be possible that I was listening to that song but my parents were no longer here, and my child who was not then born, is 39 soon. My mind was in great confusion in that short time, trying to make sense of it all.
A beautiful wish, to have mattered to someone, to have had your life make a difference,
Please know that indeed you matter to many of your invisible friends here in Stacklandia.
Thank you for your kind words of encouragement. I appreciate you!
Thank you David. My father passed away suddenly, but not expectedly and as you say he was always there until he wasn't. He was my business mentor and my "life philospohy coach" and I am still so grateful for the copious time we had together. I take your prayer to heart as I am now the old man to my children.
I cried when I got the news about Bob. As a west coast Canadian you wouldn't think that would be the case but I grew up watching him on the Tonight Show. He was one the greatest deadpan comedians of all time and I adored him. His famous line from the movie "juuuust a liiittle outside" will make me laugh for the rest of my days.
During the baseball strike, he was asked what he thought Philidelphia Phillies fans would do without someone to boo. Without missing a beat he answered, "They'll probably go to the airport and boo take-offs and landings." As you say, he was the king of deadpan and impromptu humor.
One reason I think we hang around beyond our 'reproductive' years is to fill that role of mentor and loving parent/grandparent. Glad your dad was there for you in this way and you for your kids.
Take offs and landings😂😂 I am just about to become a mentor to an 11 year old with ADHD. Lots more to give. Cheers
We all are here until we aren't. Then we're still where we are. Everywhere. In all those hearts, minds, souls, and corners where we show up because our presence was there all along. Life is a story and it persists as long as it's our truth and our fancy.
“I'll look for you in old Honolulu
San Francisco or Ashtabula
You're gonna have to leave me, now I know
But I'll see you in the sky above
In the tall grass in the ones I love
You're gonna make me lonesome when you go”
Bob Dylan.
My dad started dying slowly from dementia, and it took many years. I don't know what is harder to see, your loved ones go through such a cruel process or lose them quickly. One thing is for sure: death is painful for us, not them, and the legacy they leave is what keeps them alive.
You take good care of yourself. For sure, you're not ready to go yet.
I'm sorry Arnaly. That had to be hard. My wife and I were lucky as both our fathers were in good mental health right up to their last day.
I'm not planning on going anywhere any time soon. It does refine and refocus my thoughts about what i want to do while I'm here for those who will miss me when I'm gone.
It’s a good idea to see yourself “on the other side.” The perspective changes radically. It helps to analyze what we’re doing and how we should change it or not.
Beautiful. I wish there was a way to remind ourselves we’re in the good old days
Amen to that, Reebecca. The days we are experiencing now are the good ol days we will miss in the future. We do need a way to remind ourselves to expeirnce them now.
Thank you, David. I’m preparing to lose a life-long friend any minute. I don’t think I’ll be prepared when it happens, but your thoughts will help.
I am sorry to hear that, David. Prayers of peace. 🙏🏻
There are moments when it's almost impossible to believe that someone has gone, left this earth. I think our brains sometimes just go into shutdown and won't let us take that information in. Today, on my playlist, New York state of mind by Billy Joel. I can remember playing it over and over when my first marriage broke up in 1982. When that happened, both my parents were still alive but my daughter was not yet born. When I heard that song today, there was a strong sense of disconnect. It felt to me, in those few moments, that it could not be possible that I was listening to that song but my parents were no longer here, and my child who was not then born, is 39 soon. My mind was in great confusion in that short time, trying to make sense of it all.
Godspeed, David
Thank you, Larry.