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Nina Wegener's avatar

I believe that most people want to be kind and are just looking for an excuse to be kind. I became disabled 10 years ago and have limited mobility. I have found people to be eager to help. Wherever I go people ask, Do you need help? To see people’s kindness has been a true gift of my disability.

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David Marlow's avatar

We are truly waling each other home. Why not be kind. It is great to hear that is what you’ve experienced, Nina.

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Scott Boddie's avatar

Why would one want to be anything but kind?

What a profound and helpful question to contemplate in a daily basis. Something takes over in our default system when we feel threatened, though we are not actually. And it is especially difficult to not return unkindness with unkindness. Hurt people feel the hurt, and so then hurt others so that they don't feel so alone and unordinary in their hurt state. Like, "I must not be so different from everybody else." And then our defenses go up, and the cycle continues.

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David Marlow's avatar

It can be a vicious or virtuous cycle. The choice is ours.

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Teyani Whitman's avatar

Awesome things to ponder today David.

I have for a long time lived by the Dalai Lama’s concept “My religion is kindness”

While I am an imperfect student, it is always my intention to be kind most of all.

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David Marlow's avatar

It is amazing how much more of something we bring into our lives when we seek it with intention.

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malka neustadter's avatar

It can be hardest, sometimes, to be kind to those closest to us. As in "charity begins at home"

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David Marlow's avatar

True. 🙏🏻💙

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