Ikigai Thought for Today: Pizza Possibility
Rolling with disappointment to embrace the moment.
Audio narration by David Marlow
Let’s have pizza!
My two oldest grandkids love pizza. In particular, they like a local place that lets you 'design' your pizza yourself.
You pick the ingredients and how much of everything goes on it.
This is one of their favorite grandma and grandpa things to do.
That doesn’t look good.
It had been a while, so we loaded up the car last night and went for a design-your-own pizza dinner.
My grandson E said, ‘I know exactly what I want on mine. Ooooh, I can almost taste it!”
As we arrived, something wasn’t right. The entire store was dark.
An almost invisibly small handwritten sign said they were closed due to a staffing shortage.
Part of the Adventure
Since my kids were little, we’ve approached events as adventures. Whether it’s vacations, trips, or dinner out, each occasion is viewed as an adventure.
Whatever happens along the way is accepted as part of the adventure.
We’ve shared this same approach with the grandkids. Seconds after the realization there would be no pizza, they began acknowledging in their own way that this was part of the adventure.
We collectively discussed what to do instead and selected another restaurant nearby.
“They have an indoor playground,” said E.
“And waffle fries,” added my granddaughter, C.
And it was settled. I think the waffle fries clinched it for all of us.
Acceptance
In my experience, one of the most significant sources of unhappiness is our inability to accept things as they are.
It’s okay to be disappointed. We certainly wanted pizza. Instead of staying with the disappointment, we embraced the possibilities of something else. We accepted the change as part of the adventure.
The kids loved the playground and the waffle fries. My wife enjoyed one of the best sandwiches she’d had in a long time, and we all enjoyed one another’s company without stress or frustration.
Did I mention the waffle fries?
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David 👏...this reminds me of the concept of "rolling with resistance" that first found me...or rather I, it...in the motivational-interviewing-verse! The "obstacles" are our chance...to embrace the opportunities🙏👩🍳🤌
My reframing for disappointmentss, especially when someone apologizes for something beyond their control (a late arriving airplane, a miscooked meal, or a long line at a checkout), is to look at it this way:
1. No one died or was seriously injured.
2. It is best dealt with calmly, for both may sanity and that of the other person.
3. The statement, which I offer the person at the other end of the disappointment is, "If this is the worst thing that happens today, it will have been a pretty good day."