I know people who intentionally do not communicate what they are working on because they know others may try to douse out the flames of creativity before it even takes hold.
The question that remains:
Are we doing it out of fear?
Or out of authenticity, because we believe in our vision and purpose, and know others will too once we find the appropriate way to demonstrate it?
"Embracing Boundaries"
I recently had an enlightening discussion with a DBT group on using "limits" instead of "boundaries", specifically because of the Autonomy factor you are highlighting here, David.
Now, for me, limits suggests I know mine, and respect my abilities as far as they will go.
"I am not telling you what to do, I am telling you what *I* can do."
Boundaries are often viewed as a fence we view as s a barrier to keep others out. We may think it's a protection, But ultimately not very healthy.
Autonomy matters David and more so a great boss that is willing to be appreciative of someone coming to them in trust to share concerns. This may be the only chance this person conveys before leaving to find a better way. It is the fork in the road of relationships not only in business but personally with a friend, colleague or someone trying to expand their inner circle. Let this opportunity not slip away when a person can listen, better understand, see some development (individually and as a team) and allow that person the chance to move forward with help from you as much as you can. Ultimately the quest is on the person...we can be guideposts but teaching someone to fish is always better than fishing for them! Empower to Power...we share our light to light others candles...if they light another candle to spread the Good News is great for the greater light...if they chose to light to destroy that is also a choice yet we must evaluate the opportunity if good and share!
I'm sure the 'message' gets sent in many ways though rarely is it listened to until after the person has left. As you say though, ultimately we are accountable for our own lives and career.
I know people who intentionally do not communicate what they are working on because they know others may try to douse out the flames of creativity before it even takes hold.
The question that remains:
Are we doing it out of fear?
Or out of authenticity, because we believe in our vision and purpose, and know others will too once we find the appropriate way to demonstrate it?
"Embracing Boundaries"
I recently had an enlightening discussion with a DBT group on using "limits" instead of "boundaries", specifically because of the Autonomy factor you are highlighting here, David.
Now, for me, limits suggests I know mine, and respect my abilities as far as they will go.
"I am not telling you what to do, I am telling you what *I* can do."
Boundaries are often viewed as a fence we view as s a barrier to keep others out. We may think it's a protection, But ultimately not very healthy.
Really fantastic stuff from you every day!
I'm always exploring the best or better ways to convey an idea.I'm going to explore the limits idea. Thanks Scott!
Autonomy matters David and more so a great boss that is willing to be appreciative of someone coming to them in trust to share concerns. This may be the only chance this person conveys before leaving to find a better way. It is the fork in the road of relationships not only in business but personally with a friend, colleague or someone trying to expand their inner circle. Let this opportunity not slip away when a person can listen, better understand, see some development (individually and as a team) and allow that person the chance to move forward with help from you as much as you can. Ultimately the quest is on the person...we can be guideposts but teaching someone to fish is always better than fishing for them! Empower to Power...we share our light to light others candles...if they light another candle to spread the Good News is great for the greater light...if they chose to light to destroy that is also a choice yet we must evaluate the opportunity if good and share!
I'm sure the 'message' gets sent in many ways though rarely is it listened to until after the person has left. As you say though, ultimately we are accountable for our own lives and career.